Does not mention the parent who works from home who feels like whatever they are doing, taking care of the kids or...
Does not mention the parent who works from home who feels like whatever they are doing, taking care of the kids or working, they are neglecting the other.
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2014/11/disdain_for_stay_at_home_parents_one_working_dad_interrogates_that_feeling.html
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2014/11/disdain_for_stay_at_home_parents_one_working_dad_interrogates_that_feeling.html
Good piece. My experience on the receiving end has reflected all this so far, especially among my traditionally minded friends who wonder why our arrangement is how it is and cannot wrap their heads around "because I'm better at this and Karen is better at working."
ReplyDeleteYou also make a really good point about feeling like working and parenting means neglecting one or the other. I lost a couple long time clients this year, I'm sure because I couldn't put the effort in.
My wife is the one who's home working/parenting. She often just ends up working late into the night because she's busy with other stuff during the day.
ReplyDeleteAnd we're in the trap of not being able to do pre-school right now because it's expensive and no one in our area offers it part-time.
Yeah, the part-time preschool thing is a lifesaver. I have Iris in 3x/week which is juuuust right. And we have an active grandma who takes her Friday nights, so we get a date night.
ReplyDeleteMostly we're just very fortunate on a couple fronts. One, that K makes good enough money for the whole house. And two, that I've already had a career and don't feel like I'm missing out (although the $$$ was awfully nice, and the pittance I scrape together each month now doesn't grant much freedom).
When Abby was little you could do part-time daycare/preschool just about anywhere. She went two days a week for a long time. No more.
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